The Silent Collapse of the Indian Marriage System

Between Tradition and Identity-Can Marriage Exist Without Sacrifice? Why are Indian Marriages not working anymore? Because it’s truly no longer about the marriage.  I can now understand why so many women after marriage gain weight they puff up because they carry the burden of not just them, but all of the daughter-in-law’s in their generation...

7 Years Later

7 years later writing this post. I started this blog in 2018, after a visit to India where I was so intrigued by the question of WHY do people move to a different country? Why do people move to a country and then over practice the culture they left? In the past 4 years, I...

What if we are actually confining ourselves instead of opening our hearts?

We are taught to box ourselves and the relationships in our lives. We meet people and put them in boxes of where we think they fit in our lives. I think it comes from our own fear of allowing love and genuine relationships in our lives.  We are conditioned to look at relationships a certain way...

A Good Indian Girl

A good Indian girl, in an Indian society. A thought pattern that I believe drives a part of today’s Indian society. The society today that puts women doing housework on a pedestal-when this should be a common sense skill. A society that creates timelines & expectations for women ( & men) and how they should...

Helping your Child Learn a Language

How do we learn languages? When we were younger the language automatically came to us as our parents spoke to us. By immersion it was all around us, and thats primarily because studies show that children at a younger age can pick up multiple languages and have the ability to communicate in them simultaneously. Contrary...

Cranberry Sauce-The Indian Way

We buy cranberry sauce every year for Thanksgiving and I usually end up not knowing what to do with it after. I like the tanginess of cranberry sauce but it’s not my go-to. As usual, I Indian-ize everything so here is my version-goes great on toast, in a sandwich , or with tortilla chips! Ingredients....

What is Diwali?

Diwali is..firecrackers...sweets...gifts family gatherings...so Indian Christmas + July 4th? Kind of! Diwali spiritually symbolizes the win of good over evil the victory of light over darkness. “Do you have to be Indian or Hindu to celebrate it? Not at all. Although Diwali’s origin is in the India Sub-Continent present day South Asia, anyone can celebrate...

Why do Indian-Americans seem more ‘Indian’ and WHY do they all loved Bollywood?

Because that was what we saw! We saw a part of ourselves in those Bollywood movies. We saw a part of our own homes aspects of the drama that goes on between our families in those movies. In some ways it was even like an escape route for us for from our daily lives where...

Why DigVijay has become my fav character in Bandish Bandits

When you first look at the character of DigVijay in Bandish Bandits-you see him as the villain. Mind you he also makes his appearance as a villain might. You see him challenging Panditji, and at this point in the show we have a soft corner for Panditji so anyone opposing him immediately becomes the villain....